When did Halloween become National Dress Like a Floozy Day? In the interest of full disclosure, this post may offend some of you. I will be using this blog post to address something that has been bothering me all weekend.
On Saturday, my husband and I went out to dinner with his grandparents in honor of his birthday. (Happy birthday, Sweetie!) We went to Applebees because Grandpa was craving Riblets. Unbeknownst to us, Saturday was the day that the management had decided to allow their greeters and servers to dress up for Halloween. This could have been an enjoyable experience if not for the plethora of cleavage and gartered thighs that constantly paraded past our table—delivering food, nonetheless. Not only did this bother me from a modesty standpoint, but also from a cleanliness, “you’re handling my food” point of view.
After we said goodbye to the grandparents, we began the hour drive home, stopping at Wal-mart and Target once we got to Tampa. Customers roamed the aisles in their Halloween garb—the bulk of which consisted of, once again, plunging necklines and mini-miniskirts. When did it become ok to parade around in less-than-covering outfits simply because of a date on the calendar? Why would any self-respecting woman choose to dress like that in public?
Where has self-respect gone?
True, most of the women wearing such costumes are not who their clothes (or lack thereof) portray. They’re using Halloween as an excuse to let the alter ego out, to throw caution to the wind, and to accept consequences of such decisions. “Consequences? What consequences?” You say? Think about it. Today’s world. Public parking lots and wild parties. Maybe I’m being too pessimistic, but showing that much skin is an invitation, no matter what time of year.
This experience caused me to pose the question, “Don’t you have more respect for yourself? Your assets are not only skin deep!” Self-respect should permeate all aspects of your life, including Halloween costumes. If you can’t respect yourself enough to tastefully dress up for Halloween, respect those around you and dress appropriately. It is a tragic commentary on the state of the American woman when so many throw out their sense of decorum for the sake of a party.
What is self-respect?
The dictionary defines self respect as proper esteem or regard for the dignity of one’s character. The very words “dignity” and “character” could never be used to describe what my husband and I saw on Saturday night. Why do we feel that we have to “floozify” our attire in order to be accepted at Halloween parties?
Let’s go deeper than Halloween costumes: what has happened to self-respect in American society? So many young women feel that they have to show off “what they got” rather than develop their own character, personality, and opinions about life, liberty, and happiness. Fashion has become a matter of exhibition. Don’t believe me? Have you been to the mall lately? Where are the women who stand up for self-respect, for decency and modesty, and for the charactered upbringing of today’s youth.
That you may retain your self-respect, it is better to displease the people by doing what you know is right, than to temporarily please them by doing what you know is wrong. ~William J.H. Boetcker
Where does the fault lie?
Quite honestly, the fault lies with us. We who are adults need to be setting the example for the next generation of women. We set the bar. What we allow in moderation (ahem… Halloween costumes), they will flourish in excess. We think it’s ok to show cleavage and garters for dress-up parties; they think it’s ok year-round.
Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners. ~Laurence Sterne
I guess this blog post is a call to respect ourselves. It is a challenge to be more than an alter ego for Halloween. Make a difference, be respectful, be the example. Those little Trick-or-Treating eyes are watching.